HOW TO KEEP YOUR MAN ...101
>> Friday, April 17, 2009
Ok Woman, you are always wondering...
"How do you keep a man".
The answer is simple:
The answer is simple:
Men these days want traditional relationships. For a man with a job, a car and no kids - women are a dime a dozen. Really! A dime a dozen. When women realize that, they have to ask themselves, “What the hell am I bringing to this relationship that makes me unique”.
Sex - NO.
We all know that a man can go and get sex just about anywhere he wants.
“Money?”, NO -
9 times out of 10 a "Good" man will make more then you, has his own belongings, his own car and investments. He doesn't need your cheese.
Then what do you bring?
Then what do you bring?
Yourself! You have to make yourself available. You have to not be a burden; that means no nagging. How do you make his life easier? If he is working 12 to 14 hours are you making sure he has food when he gets home? Is he coming home to a clean house? Or the opposite. Is he coming home to a nag, a messy house or an attitude.
If that's the case, you can easily be replaced. When a black woman is replaced by a white woman, it's not because white women are submissive or doormats, it's because they want to please a man. A black woman's struggles in life and upbringing has prevented her from this kind of nurturing.
It's not really a black or white thing, it's just that more black woman face adversity then white woman, but it's those woman who can't keep a good man. They are so used to going through the day on guard, being a B-I-T-C-H that they don't know when or how to turn it off.
Women are going into relationships with the thinking, “What can he do for me?” Wrong attitude to have.
If your man goes, now you know why.
CJ
If that's the case, you can easily be replaced. When a black woman is replaced by a white woman, it's not because white women are submissive or doormats, it's because they want to please a man. A black woman's struggles in life and upbringing has prevented her from this kind of nurturing.
It's not really a black or white thing, it's just that more black woman face adversity then white woman, but it's those woman who can't keep a good man. They are so used to going through the day on guard, being a B-I-T-C-H that they don't know when or how to turn it off.
Women are going into relationships with the thinking, “What can he do for me?” Wrong attitude to have.
If your man goes, now you know why.
CJ
2 comments:
I want to please myself and also whichever man I freely decide to grace with my company. I have a lot to offer and he had better have a lot to offer also. I'm very happy with myself, independent and comfortable with being by myself rather than settling for a man who is merely out to use me. And I do not in any way shape or form fit the myth of the submissive White woman. A truly strong gentleman will be the only one who is capable of appreciating this truly strong woman.
I'm very insulted by your attitude that women should do everything to please the man and he does not have to do anything for us. I suspect you are in fact a White Republican man in his mid 50s who wishes to go back to the conservative glory days of Eisenhower.
-Vanilla Sugar
Ms. Vanillarsugar
I appreciate your well thought out written response. If you re-read the blog you will see that I am actually defending white woman and stating that they are not dating good black man because they are doormats. They are because they are confident in themselves to also give to their man.
You mention that you are insulted by my attitude that a man doesn?t have to do for a woman. I never stated that. If the man is out working 12 hours a day, as I also mention, the assumption is that money is coming back into the household. The household benefits both the man and the woman.
As my pictures show, I am a 34 yr. old black man. I am telling you the way things are, not the way that I have made them.
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